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Sooner or later, we all quote our mother

Posted on by under My Roots

It’s Mother’s Day! And just like the last 5 years, I’m not with my mom to celebrate. I don’t get to give her a big hug and make her breakfast in bed like she deserves. I selfishly chose to start my adult life 6000 miles away. 



My mom raised me and my sister good. Of course we didn’t always listen and take her advise, if I did I would be a doctor right now and not some broke musician 😉 

Me and my mom always had a special bond. I never got to that age where I was embarressed of giving my mom a hug in front of other kids or any of those stupid things kids get embarressed off. I never had many fights with my mom as a teenager, she was always the one I could turn to. When Anything fun or dramatic would happen at school, I would ride my bike home as fast as I could to tell my mom about it. 



When me and my sister were in elementary she and my dad wanted her to stay home so that we’d never be alone or be “key kids.” As they call it in holland. That means that at a young age you have the key to your house and you’re just home alone until your parents get home from work. We were lucky that my dad made enough money by himself that my parents were able to work things out that way, since nowadays for many families that’s impossible. 



Every morning my mom would wake us up and then fix us breakfast. Once we got downstairs, breakfast was on the table and while we ate she would do our hair. Coming back on break she’d be ready for us with lunch fixed and happy to see us. After lunch she’d get us to to do a little bit of school work. I don’t know what we would have done without her there. Dad would’ve made us tomato sandwiches daily haha! (That’s his specialty) 



When my mom and dad had a rough patch in their marriage, she could’ve easily given up, and left. She would’ve had the world on her side and nobody would blame her. But she chose the harder route. My parents worked out their issues. My mom is loyal, and when my parents got married they made a commitment to each other for life. My mom has taught me so much about forgiveness and to look at the most important things in life. While I had posters of movie stars in my room, I should’ve just looked at my mom, she is the only role model I needed.



When you’re a kid you don’t realize how good, or bad you have it. You think everyone lives the exact same way as you do. Now as an adult I realize I had it extremely good growing up.  I have the BEST parents ❤️



My mom was our everything growing up, our teacher, our coach, our alarm clock, our detective, our caretaker and our best friend. Thank you mom, for having made me the person I’m proud to be today. 



Support

Posted on by under Rants



support.. Everyone needs it, but can be tough to get sometimes, since Everyone has their own opinions and ideas. There’s so many reads about being a strong independent person. I believe that only makes you happy to an extent. I’m not saying not to be independent, but it’s nice to have someone that is proud of you and talks with praise about the things you do. Any new project I take on, I know that I can rely on the support of my family, my best friends and Charlie. For example, training for a marathon can be brutal for the people who are around the runner. The constant tiredness, and planning everything around it. Charlie doesn’t get running, he said he’d only run that far if his car broke down. But still he’s there for me and rubs my feet after a long run and makes me a nice dinner. For my first marathon I worked full time, so we’d only get some “date” time on the weekends. Sometimes I’d have a bad run, and just wanted to lay down and go to sleep. He never complained once, and was more than happy to get some take out and eat in bed.  Just like my parents who came to florida for a relaxing vacation, but rode their bike for 17 miles with me, from which their butts hurt for days! 

This goes for everything! Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can just do everything alone, I’m sure you can, but you don’t want to, believe me.

For example now that I’ve started to get into this yoga thing, Charlie’s got my back on that too. I get so excited when I get better at a new pose, that of course I want to share that. 



Even doing little projects around the house. Of course I do it for me too, but it’s nice when I finish a craft or something that he’s excited about it too.

The point is that honestly, Charlie could care less about crafts, or marathons, or yoga, and I’m sure many more interests of mine. But he’s always extremely supportive. It’s the best feeling to be able to share every aspect of your life with someone. I feel so lucky!

I know me and Charlie have been together for only 4 years, so I’m not gonna preach about how your relationship should be. I just want you to be sure that you’re with someone who supports you. Someone who asks you how your day was at work, someone who is proud when you get a bonus or a raise, someone who will be there for you no matter what! Not to sound cheesy, but material things really don’t mean anything. If someone tries to constantly give you expensive gifts, it’s a distraction from what they’re lacking. How much someone cares for you shows in their actions!